Love & Relationships

The topic this week was on Love and Relationships. I really enjoyed it and really loved the way that our speaker conveyed the message of what love is. He went over 1 Corinthians 13, but he went over it a way that I had never really heard it taught before. We went over the chapter backwards, and worked out way to the top.  “And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love.” Beginning lecture by knowing right off the bat, that out of all of these things love is the greatest was a little eye opening, in a very subtle way. I feel like sometimes as christians we characterize the end goal of our actions as love, and as a fruit of our actions when in essence love should be the beginning root of love, where every action is rooted in love. 1 John 4:8 tells us that God is love, and also says that whoever doesn’t love does not know God. So how is it that we have made love to be an action, or a forceful and uncomfortable way of expressing God’s love to people, even when we-selfishly don’t like the showing love to others when it is hard, but do it anyway, as something we are mandated to do?

The problem here is simple, yet so overlooked in my opinion, if God is love, and the creator of love so how can we as christians proclaim love when it is insincere? Worst of all is forcing our “love” to other simply because we are told to love by God. When there is a disconnect in authenticity and action, then our actions go to waste in my opinion. I have personally, always looked at love as fruit of God, and who God is, something that we just “get” after going to church for so long, or reading our bible for so long. When in reality love is so much more than that, it is an action, the tree of which all other fruits come from. Love compels us where duty will not, if God is love, he must then be the root, the bearer of that tree. So then, how can we have God/Love yet not walk in it daily? In the end, God is love, so we say. Yet do we really understand that?

Galatians 5:22-23 tells us:  “But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness,23 gentleness and self-control. Against such things there is no law.” Love being mentioned first. If we get technical, and start talking about the trinity, the spirit is Jesus, and both God the father. So when proclaiming God in us, the spirit in us, then love comes in. How then can we show kindness, joy, peace, and faithfulness without love?

This world has such a twisted view of what love is, it is incredible to really talk about doing the right thing, or loving the right way, when it then becomes wrong in the eyes of the world. When women become an object, when commitment becomes a weakness, when sex becomes impersonal and selfish, when love is completely twisted from what God intended it to be, when by definition to the world it is only self seeking, and dishonest. I don’t know much, and what I do know, I probably don’t really have a clue really. But what I do know for certain is that God IS love… it is only a matter of me truly understanding this and walking in it, and in the words of Bob Goff “Simply put: love does.”

“But the kind of love that God created and demonstrated is a costly one because it involves sacrifice and presence. It’s a love that operates more like a sign language than being spoken outright.” –Love Does


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